Breakups in lesbian relationships are notorious for being devastating experiences, especially your first one. I've heard joking/not so joking theories that tribbing leads to soul ties so deep that cutting that tie is like cutting out part of who you are.
My first breakup with another woman was utterly brutal (tho for clarification we were both TIFs at the time but at the end of the day it was painful). It was over 18 months ago and it still stings sometimes. Worse still, I initiated it 😭 We were fundamentally incompatible but u remember so clearly thinking "what have I done." I didn't eat or sleep properly for 3 weeks and I ultimately ended up in the ER for SI/SH 😕
Don't worry though, I'm fine now 😅 Do you wonder if it has something to do with youth? I was 20 then and the relationship had lasted 11 months.
So this isn't exactly a breakup but it's more of a breakup than I've ever had. I had a crush on a girl two years ahead of me when I was 14. We met at a party when I turned fifteen and I complimented her dress. The next day she brought me a cupcake and told me we were friends now. We ended up being best friends for a decade. Both of us had feelings but we were so afraid of losing the other that we rarely went through with any actual relationshippy behavior. I think we kissed only once and never talked about it again. We did everything together, slept in the same bed, and planned our schedules around each other. Eventually when I was 22 and she was 24 she got a boyfriend who would get super drunk and weird around me. I had to cut off the relationship because she fundamentally changed when he came into the picture. I cut it off when I was 23, I'm 28 now and I still think about it almost daily